i randomly texed him and he told me that he likes my deep eyes and hair and finds me really attractive...we started talking and after 5 days he said he wants to meet..
now he doesnt want to meet at a public place..he said it wud be better if we meet at his place or get a room booked at some hotel...
i am really not comfortable with that...i told him and he said lets not meet then,and that he can wait till i feel comfortable...
look i really dont know what to do...my past experiences with guys were not good at all..all of them got physically attracted towards me..
i dont want to be used...
i do have feelings for him but then he might think that i texed him bcoz im after his position and money....ive got nothing to do with all that and i really dont care...
the last time we spoke he told me that he wants to take things forward..and i was like okayy lets c what happens...he said he will talk to me afterwards but he didnt call or mesg..nor did i....bcoz if i call i'll have to agree to his terms like in my previous experiences...
am i wrong?..i mean i dont want a physical relationship from the very begginning...shud i wait for him to contact...i am really confused...i am not the sort who will just give myself to anyone...how can i make him understand...
Well, it seems quite obvious that this guy is interested primarily in a physical relationship. Wanting to meet you at his home or in a hotel are both big indicators that he's not looking for a date, but for some sexual activity. After all, how many great romances start with a first date planned for a hotel room?
You clearly say you are uncomfortable with this and do not want to have a 'just sex' type of thing. It seems this is all he wants, particularly as he said he would wait until you were 'ready' (for the hotel he suggested) and didn't offer any actual date or interest. He's also commenting on your looks, but what about everything else that makes you wonderful?
(Even if this was a best case scenario, I'd probably urge you to think long and hard before dating a senior manager at work.)
If you recognize you've got a pattern forming with making bad relationship choices, maybe this is your chance to look honestly at this situation and make a decision that breaks your pattern.
I don't see an actual relationship coming out of this....sorry.
Best of luck.