his girlfriend isnt anything like he usually likes. he wont even talk to her. he makes up resons not to go somewere with her. and lies to her. everyone thinks he dont really like her and is just trying to piss me off.
i really love this boy and want him back supper bad. we were perfict for eachother. we talked about getting married just the day before we brock up. and he said he loved me. i want him back how do i go about getting this boy back? he is everything i ever wanted. i need him to back
It sounds like this guy doesn't know what he wants, but I'm sorry to say that one of the things he DOESN'T want is a mature relationship.
I don't know enough about the situation to tell you anything about his relationship with your friend, but it does seem obvious that he doesn't want to date you. Getting someone to break up with you not only shows his immaturity level, but also that he's not interested in anything more serious with you.
It's tacky that he's also talking to other people behind your back, but worth thinking about.
I think people often decide they 'need' another person for a variety of reasons, but usually because finding a partner makes them feel better about themselves. You need to decide what TYPE of partner you want - do you think so little of yourself that you'll settle for a guy who constantly breaks it off with you, dates your friends, and backstabs you?
You deserve a guy who will like you for who you are, and who will also respect you. If you don't take a stand and respect yourself, you're never going to find a boyfriend who is good for you - let alone a guy to marry.
Think about what you really want and need from a relationship, and don't settle for less. The right guy WILL come along if you are patient enough - and if you don't drop your standards just because you're lonely.
Good luck.
no he only broke up with me one time and no one knows the reson. he broke up with the girl only a week after he started going out with her. he is now nice to me and we talk to one another. were friends but i still love him. he was nice to me the whole time we were going out. he would do anything for me i just dont know what happend. he said he loved me to. he was the sweetest guy i ever went with. he bought me roses on v-day and everything. he said that i show off to much. how do i quite showing off? how do i show him he is the one that i want? more then that how do i get him back?
I don't think you should have to change who you are in order to make somebody care about you. What he thinks of as you showing off could just be your larger than life personality, or some other essential part of YOU.
I'm not going to tell you how to get this guy back. I mean, aside from the fact that it's impossible to do as he broke up with you already & I just don't know him, but also because I think you can do a lot better.
He sounds confused. I'd say that you should keep being his friend and see where things lead, but be careful. If he only wants to remain friends, you could be getting your heart more broken every day. If the pressure gets to be too much, why not just try talking to him? If you dated for nine months, then you should be able to let him know what's going on in your mind.
And, remember, if he is your friend, he shouldn't spend his time criticizing you. Hang out with people who DON'T think you are a showoff; it'll make you feel better about yourself and hopefully find a guy who likes you for who you are.
I personally think you'll look back on this in a few years when you are in a strong relationship and be happy you are where you are at that point - in the meantime, try to get some closure. It's not fair to let yourself be in this limbo where you don't know how the guy feels. Either tell him how you feel, or try your best to get over him. Those are the only two real choices.
Good luck.