Ok! Well I have to go to the doctor tuesday with my mom to get birth control. Im just really stressing out about the papsmear. I shave down there and Im not sure whether or not I want my mom in the room when they do that. They also have to ask you if your sexually active and I really dont want my mom knowing all that either! Any info, advice, etc.? Your mom shouldn't be in the room with you. If you're old enough to have sex, you're old enough to see the doctor. Letting your mom know in advance you want to be alone shouldn't be a problem - I should think the doctor would EXPECT your mom to stay in the waiting room.
With no mother there, you can ask questions and be totally upfront about your sexual life; they will not pass the info onto your mom.
So - go in alone. It sounds scarier than it is - though I can't think of anything worse than having your mom be there while your vaginal area gets examined!!
Good luck.
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