I need your help badly. It has this boy that I like very much he plays on my church basketball team but doesn't attend my church. I go to all of my church basketball games and each time he plays I just get this urge to talk to him but I can't. My mouth just won't allow me to. I can't even say to him Good game because it just wouldn't come out. I always stare at him I don't know if he notices.
He's cute and dresses fly, I'm talking about Prada shoes, every Jordan that comes out, Hardwood classics basketball Jerseys, Vanson Leather jackets, and Northfaces. I Just don't know what I to say to him. many people try to help me but I just start getting nervous. I'm so use to boys that I like approching me so it is diffcult for me to approach a boy that I like very much. I like him since last year and never said a word to him.
He looked at me on Saturday and I almost died. After every game he plays and 2 other teams is playing a game he stays to see it and sits in front of me. Please help me! I'll be seeing him Saturday. Thanx
If this guy always stays to see another game, and always sits by you, I think it's fair to say that this guy might be interested in you. It sounds like you might be intimidated by his aura - the good looks, the nice clothes - but there's got to be more for you to be attracted to. His personality? His actions?
There's probably a really nice guy buried underneath all the snazzy outfits, but unfortuneately I don't know how to help you open your mouth. I do know that trying to talk to someone you like can be excruciating - but if another few months go by and you still haven't talked to him, you might be tipping over into the 'agony' category.
I think you basically just have to go for it. You don't have to be fantastically witty or impressive. You already pinpointed the best thing to say - 'Good game.' Try saying it right before he sits down.
If you sit behind him, then he'll be facing you. That's a good chance to say something like 'good game' - which is excellent because it doesn't commit you to anything. You're not declaring your eternal love and risking rejection, you're only saying what twenty other people have already said.
And, most importantly, you're breaking the ice. Try to just smile at him on Saturday, and then the Saturday after this week just do it. Smile, open your mouth, and say those two little words. It'll be so much earier to start a conversation - especially once he knows that you want to talk to him.
Even if things don't work out with this guy, you'll have smashed through one big barrier - the fear of talking to someone you like and not getting a response. It's a painful, awkward, scary thing...but it does need to be done. If you want something to happen, you have to rely on yourself to make it happen.
If you like this guy enough, then he's worth talking to. You CAN do it, it just takes a little courage. And where love is involved, a little courage goes a long way.
Good luck.