done, just to feel "better" of myself. My mom changes her answers
CONSTANTLY!! First she tells me "When your 16" and then she tells me "Your
grades are low" and then the other time she told me bluntly "No". It's
aggrivating because I honest to god hate my eyebrows and want to get them
done!
My sister tells me that if I get my eyebrows done, I have to KEEP on doing
them to maintain them, which involves MONEY to keep doing them. I wish I had
my own money to do these things. I feel like all the girls in school are
prettier than me. What should I do??????
I hate to say it, but changing your hair or getting your eyebrows done is only a temporary fix for a bigger problem. All of us have things about ourselves we dislike, but each and every one of us is worth loving. We're all fabulous.
One of my favourite poems is:
The truth is we all ache.
We all have growing pains
and wonder if we are
okay and enough and loved.
The thing is - we are.
Really.
Without the silver shoes
and leopard print sheets.
We are enough without
all the things we buy
to make us much more
than we are or need to be.
We are simple
and complex
and rare
as is.
(Sabrina Ward Harrison)
It might sound really optimist or unrealistic of me, but nothing you wear can ever change who you are.
In the meantime, though, of course it can make us a feel a little better to spice things up. And if feeling a little bit better helps you to feel a lot better, then it might be worth trying.
Your sister is right that those sorts of changes go on a long time - depending on the colour/texture of your hair, it will have to be bleached before it can look really red. And once that starts growing out at the roots, it could look a little bizarre. Why not try a temporary hair thing to see if you like it? It's cheap and will fade away without weird looking results.
And eyebrows...cheap suggestions: get them done once, and ask a lot of questions while it is happening. Really pay attention, then you could possibly try to duplicate it yourself - or maybe you have a friend who can do it for free.
Whatever colour or shape any hair on your body, though, you're still you: and you are more important than how you look.